Rabbi Michael Mellen is director of Youth Programs for the Union for Reform Judaism

May 21, 2010
7 Sivan, 5770

 “NFTY has helped me grow as a leader and figure out who I am as a person.”

“I love that NFTY makes Judaism real in my life.”

 “NFTY is love.”
 
Each of these quotes is based on many of the comments collected as part of our NFTY strategic planning process.  These kinds of statements show up over and over and over.  The words leadership, self, Judaism, and love stream through comments from NFTYites about NFTY.  These teens feel blessed.

It’s clear to me that as much as NFTY gives blessing, NFTY is blessed as well.  Yes, we have a lot of work to do and more teens to reach, but there’s no question that we are blessed - blessed by fantastic teens, supportive and thoughtful parents, terrific staff, strong partners, and a bit of magic. 

When we Reform Jews say a blessing we often attempt to make our sometimes jumbled thoughts real in the world.  The blessing may be scripted, like the Priestly Benediction or the Motzi or a poem that helps us better understand our hopes or dreams.  Sometimes the blessing is simply a direct manifestation of the words swirling around in our hearts and our heads. 

Often though, the blessing already exists in the world and our responsibility is to pay attention and note its existence. For instance, you may be a blessing or your actions may be blessings. 

I believe that NFTY is a blessing, manifest by words spoken largely by Reform Jewish women years ago.  And I believe that NFTY continues to be blessed both by individual Reform Jewish women and by the organization, Women of Reform Judaism. 

In synagogues around North America, sisterhoods and women’s groups step up to support NFTY events and Mitzvah Corps programs. Volunteers play significant roles in leading youth in congregations, whether in youth groups or in classrooms. The YES Fund and financial support from many WRJ Districts help to create powerful programs and ensure that teens can afford to participate. 

I also believe it’s a two- way street.  I hope that NFTY and Reform Jewish teens reflect the values, aims, and dreams of Women of Reform Judaism.  I hope that Reform Jewish teens contribute deeply to the congregations and communities in which they are members. I hope that NFTY finds a way to play a role in the lives of those Reform Jewish teens you care most about. 

Likewise with us, we continue to bless, to be blessings, and to find blessing in the world.

So, I’m curious: How have you or your WRJ community blessed NFTY?  How has NFTY blessed you?  Or, if there’s simply a blessing I should know about, please email me, mmellen@urj.org.  I’d love to know and to share.

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Rabbi Michael Mellen
Director of Youth Programs
Union for Reform Judaism

May 13, 2010
1 Sivan 5770

Dear WRJ Friends,

This week’s Torah portion is Bamidbar, appropriately named because it shares the name of the fourth book of Torah. While there are many commentaries associated with the portion, we should look to the first few paragraphs for our inspiration as leaders of WRJ.
   
God said to Moses, “Take a census of the whole Israelite community by the clans of its ancestral houses, listing every male, head by head.”
   
On the surface, we perceive the organizational efficiency of our ancient sisters and brothers as they prepare to leave Egypt and journey to the Land of Israel. In very much the same way as we respond to our own country’s census, the Israelites need to establish the state of their community; how many people are aged thirty and up?  How many can bear arms?  Each tribe appoints one person to serve as part of the leadership team. Everyone understands the importance of preparation.
 
Although their numbers strengthens the Israelites, we need to ask if they are ready to accept the mantle of Torah? We know it takes them forty years. We learn in the Torah that all the Israelites are uplifted by the census count. Their awareness of God’s thorough count gives each Israelite a heightened sense of meaning and significance.

As members of our local sisterhoods and WRJ, we count on each person to contribute her talents and wisdom, to reach out through activities such as advocacy and social justice, and to support each other with our hearts and the work of our hands.
 
As the holiday of Shavuot approaches, we prepare ourselves emotionally and spiritually to renew our commitment to the historic cry of “na'aseh ve'nishmah” (we will do the mitzvot and later ask why), proclaimed by the Jewish people at Mt. Sinai. We will once again ponder the greatness of our Torah, its awesome breadth, depth, and infinite layers of wisdom and meaning.  Our reflections and commentaries will continue the dialog begun at Mt. Sinai.

Therefore, Parshat Bamidbar and the theme of "se'u", (uplift them), calls us to the critical truth that in God’s eyes we all have something special to offer, each and everyone according to her own abilities. Those of us who serve as leaders understand that we carry the great responsibility to exemplify the teachings of Torah. Let us lift up our heads and be counted. 

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Sincerely,
Tammy

Tammy Gerson
WRJ Board Member

May 7, 2010
23 Iyar, 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

Shabbat Shalom! When I was asked to write for this week’s e-mail it was only natural that I went to The Torah - A Women’s Commentary. This week is a double portion B'har-B'chukotai. B’har discusses that God teaches Moses the rules for two holidays that each last a whole year. First, that Shabbat comes every seven days and we rest on Shabbat. Second, every seven years there is a “Shabbat Year” and the land should rest. In B'chukotai, God has had Moses teach the Jewish people many laws and rules and that the people should follow these rules very carefully. God tells the people if they follow these laws there will be peace in the land and they will be happy. He also warns them that not following these rules will bring very bad things. In fact, the entire book of Va-Yikra is full of laws and rules. 

As I began to reflect on these ideas the concept of the need for balance in life stood out. One needs to ensure they have created balance in their work, worship, personal, and social aspects of life. God has established rules and laws related to individual needs and the community as a whole. Rules and laws create order and commanding us to rest on Shabbat illustrates a need for balance.
 
How does one create this balance? People ask me this everyday! The answer is easy! I am passionate about everything I do. I have learned the art of saying no nicely and only committing to things I know I can do well or know I will have help with. I also have to admit I am an organizer. I make lists and always have my calendar with me. I love my job teaching first grade at a Reform Jewish Day School. Every day is exciting and engaging. Tough days are sprinkled in.  I know that in order to have a classroom with successful learners at all levels I need to be organized, creative, and have clear expectations. I must model and create a balance for myself and my students.

I am excited to be a part of a prestigious group of women that will be celebrating its 100th birthday in 2013. WRJ allows me to connect with women locally and from all over of the world on many levels. My relationship with WRJ has allowed me to grow personally and spiritually.  Personally and socially I make time to be close with family and friends. I set goals for myself and make every effort to accomplish these goals while keeping balance. I am also not afraid to ask for help! I believe everything I do is interdependent and this helps to create balance. 

On this Shabbat we as strong, passionate, busy women should take the time to take in Shabbat and find balance in our lives. 

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warmly,
Dara
 
Dara Amram
WRJ executive committee
WRJ 48th Assembly Programming Chair

April 30, 2010

16 Iyar, 5770

Shabbat Shalom!  In our Torah portion this week, Emor, which means “speak” in Hebrew, we learn of the laws which govern the kohenim, the high priests.  God instructs Moses to teach the priests the laws that apply to their special status. They were not to shave their heads or make gashes in their skin as expressions of mourning. No kohen with a physical defect may offer sacrifices, but he still was permitted to eat the portions of the sacrifices set aside for the priests. Among those who are excluded is anyone "who is blind, or lame, or has a limb too short or too long; who has a broken leg or a broken arm; or who is a hunchback, or a dwarf..." (Leviticus 21.18-20)

Until recently, I read this piece of the Torah portion without paying it much attention.  Of course the priests have to be “whole” – just as the animals which are sacrificed have to be unblemished.  To be fit for service to God, one must be perfect. 

Lately, however, I have been struggling with the whole idea of perfection. Because a person is deaf, or physically handicapped, or autistic, is that person not made in the image of God and worthy of full participation in Jewish life? Even Maimonides was disturbed by this passage that forbade kohenim with blemishes from offering sacrifices and addressed this in the "Guide to the Perplexed" (Section 3 Chapter 45), where he states that "because only someone who is whole with regard to his limbs and who is handsome will be accepted by the masses." It was his fear that people would equate blemishes of the kohen to blemishes in the Temple or God. It was his belief that people might avoid coming to the Temple to make sacrifices if they were scared by a kohen who was not physically perfect.

We see this in our society all the time. We are entranced by the “beautiful people” who have no blemishes. We fail to see what’s inside a person because we are so struck by their external beauty. We avoid people in wheelchairs, or those who are not socially adept. We speak around them, instead of to them.

I was guilty of this as well, until my stepson entered my life. Brian has Asperger’s Syndrome as well as other developmental issues. Suddenly I was confronted with my own prejudice. Here was a young man who desperately wanted to be a part of society, but was shunned by many because of his ‘blemish” – because he is different. Through his eyes, I became aware of the barriers to his becoming a full member of society. From that realization, I began to look at my Jewish community with new eyes. 

I do not believe that God intended for us to discriminate against those who are different. I believe that we are all created in God’s image, and that it is our obligation to be inclusive. Too many children and adults are excluded from meaningful participation in Jewish life because the community has not found ways to respond to their special needs. Sisterhood is the heart of the congregation and we should take the lead in creating ways to include everyone in synagogue life. Look around your own synagogue. Are there tallit hooks outside the bathrooms? Are they at a level that someone in a wheel chair can reach them? Is the bimah easily accessible to those who walk with crutches, walkers, or are in wheelchairs? Do you have infrared transmitters and earphones for the hearing impaired? Are there directions to accessible entrances on doorways that are not accessible? Are the accessible entrances unlocked? Do children with special needs receive individualized instruction so that they can participate in bar/bat mitzvah and confirmation? Does the youth group welcome all of the young people in your congregation?

Parashat Emor concludes “There shall be one law for the stranger and the home born." (Leviticus 24.22)  If there is one standard of justice for all, it should apply to those who have historically been excluded. It is up to us to speak for those who have been excluded and be sure that everyone has a place in our community.
 
May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warmly,

Fredi Bleeker Franks
Treasurer, Women of Reform Judaism
Congregation Emanu El
Houston, Texas

April 23, 2010                                       
10 Iyar 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

As I read this week’s Torah portion, K’doshim (Lev. 19:1-20:27) I realized that participating in sisterhood is holy work and that we are often inspired by our commitment to Judaism.  It begins:  Adonai spoke to Moses, saying “Speak to the whole Israelite community and say to them: You shall be holy, for I, your God, am holy.  I am not sure that we really think of our participation in sisterhood as sacred work.  To me our commitment of our time and energy is truly holy.

Then I read the commentary on K’doshim from Dr. Ellen Frankel’s book, The Five Books of Miriam that divided the many laws in this portion into four distinct groups:
     (1) protecting the weak members of society…
     (2) ensuring social stability and justice…
     (3) preserving religious orthodoxy…
     (4) respecting the natural order…

What a wonderful way to evaluate the success of our sisterhoods as we complete another year.
We usually determine our success quantitatively:  by numbers of members, the number of people who attended our events, the number of projects we complete, and the amount of money we raise.  I do not think we evaluate our year by the quality of programs and activities based on holiness.

Using Dr. Frankel’s four categories of laws in this portion as guidelines, we can evaluate the effectiveness of our sisterhoods.  We can ask ourselves, our leaders, and our board members:
1.    Does our sisterhood protect and assist the weaker members of our society—the poor, the stranger, the disabled, the elderly, and our children?
2.    Does our sisterhood ensure social stability and justice by honoring our families and our congregation, by speaking against deceit and unfair practices, by maintaining social harmony, by encouraging honesty and integrity within our homes, our sisterhood, our congregation, and our communities?
3.    Does our sisterhood encourage and preserve religious practices, such as honoring the name of God, keeping Shabbat, celebrating our holidays and life cycle events, and studying Torah?
4.    Does our sisterhood respect the natural order that God created by preserving the environment, using only those natural resources we need, and encouraging everyone to “go green”?
5.    Is our sisterhood successfully doing holy work?
I am sure that your sisterhood, just like mine, can answer each question with a resounding,”yes”.  Yet I am sure that we probably never before thought to evaluate or plan our programs and activities this way.

Be proud of all that your sisterhood does each and every year because we are doing God’s work.  We are constantly laying the foundation for a just society.  We are living a basic tenet of Judaism—to be holy.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Shabbat shalom,
Helene H. Waranch, WRJ past president

April 16, 2010

2 Iyar 5770

Dear WRJ friends,
 
As we study our Torah portion this week, Tazaria-M’tzora, Leviticus 12:1-15:33, we learn of medical ritual and purification behavior during ancient time concerning skin afflictions and other contamination, mold or mildew within the home. We learn about the requirement of isolating the inflicted and requiring an offering to God to heal. Whether rich or poor, a payment was required but the size of the payment was adjusted based upon one’s ability to pay. Our rabbis tell us that God cares deeply for all the people, regardless of their economic status. In fact, the Torah prescribes affordable sacrifices. No one in the community shall receive better access to the priests than anyone else in the community based on his ability to pay.

It seems to me that our country has been dealing with this issue. It has been the Obama administration’s priority to create access to medical care for everyone living within our borders without considering the individual’s ability to pay. Congress has just passed, and the president signed, a healthcare policy so that all Americans have access to quality, affordable health care.

Furthermore, as we are a nation of immigrants, it is important that our government examine and revise the United States' immigration policy. Living in the U.S. are huge numbers of undocumented immigrants, many of whom have jobs and have paid taxes, but who live in fear of detention and deportation. Our punitive immigration policy needs to be reviewed as we remember how our forefathers and foremothers were strangers once in America, how so many of our families sought refuge from persecution. As the Torah portion commands that access to God is required by all who seek access, WRJ must continue to work within our synagogues and communities to urge our government to provide and maintain opportunities for legal immigrants who have sought sanctuary in the U.S. and to adopt comprehensive immigration reform legislation that would include a path to legalization for the millions of undocumented immigrants in the United States.

Let us continue to work towards making the laws of our land reflect the values which guide us all.
 
May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warmly,
 
Patti Grossman
WRJ Executive Committee
Temple Beth Shalom
Needham, MA
 

April 9, 2010

25 Nissan 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

Yom HaShoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day, occurs each year on the 27th of Nissan. This Jewish holiday is observed as a day of commemoration for the approximately six million Jews who perished in the Holocaust.

This particular holiday holds a very special place in my heart, especially this year. Both of my grandparents are Holocaust survivors. My father too is a survivor, who made his way to North America at the very young age of five.

This past February my dear father passed away unexpectantly. He was buried in the perfect spot – a small section of a cemetery founded by a Holocaust survivor from his own congregation in Florida.

As you can imagine, these last few months have been extremely difficult for me and my family. When I think about what my grandparents and father went through in Europe, I wonder how they managed to survive. Ironically, at this time in my life, I too wonder some days how I’ll “survive” this period of loss and sadness.

I truly believe that we are exactly where we need to be at any given moment in our lives. This holds true today. I feel very lucky to have found WRJ and sisterhood during this time in my life. There are so many wonderful women around me, colleagues and friends from WRJ, districts, and sisterhoods, who are constantly caring and looking out for me.

That’s what sisterhood is all about – building friendships, caring for one another, and helping others through difficult times. 

We do this on local and international levels. Through advocacy, our WRJ sisterhoods give a voice to those that don’t have one. Through the YES Fund (Youth, Education, and Special Projects), we support women, children, and those in need in North America, Israel, and around the world.

Locally, we provide ongoing support to our congregations and neighborhood communities by giving our time, creativity, and resources.

Finally, on a personal level, when one of our sisters is going through a difficult time, we give her all of the love and strength that she needs to get through – to survive.

Thank you for all that you’ve given to me during these past few months. I thank god every day that I have sisterhood and WRJ in my life. I hope that you feel the same.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warmest regards,
Rachel

Rachel Jurisz
WRJ Manager of Service to Sisterhoods and Districts

April 2, 2010
18 Nisan 2770

Dear WRJ Friends,

On this Shabbat that falls during Pesach, it is traditional to read the Song of Songs. This timing seems odd – why read erotic love poetry during a festival that recalls the liberation of our people from slavery? In trying to understand this, I found that there are a variety of possibilities suggested for the timing:

• The Song of Songs is an allegory for God’s love for the people Israel.
  
  
• Reading the Song during Pesach provides a contrast to the usual interpretation of freedom in the Passover context – freedom from oppression, tyranny and slavery. The Song of Songs speaks of the affirmative and joyous freedom to love.
  
  
• The Song’s allusions to nature speak to us of spring and rebirth, connecting to the time of year for this holiday and to the rebirth of our people through the Exodus from Egypt.

Personally, I like the idea that the Song of Songs provides a different view of freedom – the freedom to take action and seek the beauty in life, which certainly includes love. Extending that concept, it also connects to the values espoused in the American Declaration of Independence – the rights to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” and to the affirmative freedoms guaranteed by the U.S. Bill of Rights and the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.

Social action has been a component of WRJ’s agenda since our founding. When we read of the oppression of the Hebrews, how can we not think of those who are still oppressed today, whether by dictatorial and extreme regimes, or by a simple lack of food and shelter? WRJ has helped me understand the conditions of people worldwide who are still deprived of some of the most basic necessities that we all take for granted including food and security. Through WRJ I have learned about the work of the Religious Action Center (RAC), the Israel Religious Action Center (IRAC), and the World Union for Progressive Judaism (WUPJ) in ensuring and preserving freedoms and in meeting basic humanitarian needs. And through WRJ and our YES Fund (Youth, Education and Special Projects), I have been privileged to help, in at least some small way, to provide resources toward meeting these needs.

So as we read the beautiful Song of Songs, let’s think about one message it sends us – that we are free to choose positive action.  Helping bring the freedoms we enjoy to all people is an act of love. Many of our sisterhoods already include social action programming on our annual agendas and also support the YES Fund. If each of our sisterhood members committed just five more hours of hands-on volunteer time each year and all of our sisterhoods committed just $5 per member more each year to the YES Fund, the impact would be dramatic. Think about it.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warm regards,
Blair
Blair Marks
WRJ First Vice President

March 26, 2010
11 Nisan 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

“It shall not be baked with leaven” - Tzav, Lev.6:10.

How timely this line from our Torah portion seems as we go forward toward our first Seder on Monday night. Yet the reference is not to Passover, but to the use of grain given for sacrifice in the Temple. In fact, the majority of this portion deals with ritual and instructions from God for sacrificial conduct in priestly life. 

As we celebrate Passover, we too, follow rituals and instructions. The rules passed down to us from our mothers, aunts and grandmothers. For some, keeping Pesach is a time of sacrifice, of rules and restrictions including cleaning out chometz, fixing complicated meals, and giving up the morning bagel or muffin, pasta and pizza. For others it is a time of great joy; taking out beloved recipes, gathering with family over well-read Haggadahs, and setting a table with heirloom Seder treasures. Same holiday, same work to do, but what a big difference our perceptions make.

Perceptions turn a reference to unleavened bread in Tzav into Passover matzo. Perceptions also shape how we view the tasks we are asked to do as sisterhood members, in our districts, for WRJ. We may see them as impositions that take time or money away from other choices we might make. My hope is that we change our perception and see them as great opportunities. They are chances for bonding with other women, chances to do mitzvot, to learn and grow. Just like a Seder, they can become times of spirituality, joy, and shared laughter. It’s all in how we interpret the text.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives and our Seders be joyous.

Please take a moment to share this e-mail with the women of your sisterhood.

Warm regards,
Denny

Denny Norris
Mid-Atlantic District President
Temple Emanuel Sisterhood
Greensboro, NC

19 March 2010
4 Nisan 5770

Dear WRJ Friends,

This week, I find myself preparing for Pesach.  It’s a virtual “list-fest” compiling names of guests, menu items (and who is bringing what), groceries (order the right size brisket – is it too early to buy the parsley?), and prepared foods (mmm, gefilte fish – whitefish or pike??).  Pulling out the box of haggadahs and trying to find the ones with the fewest wine stains and missing pages. Which brand of matzahs did we like last year? Do we want to offer nice kosher wine, in addition to the ceremonial sweet wine (concord grape or blackberry)? And the charosis – Israeli with dates, or Ashkenazi with apples?  Choices, too many choices!  What a luxury; what a gift.

For Jews in the FSU (former Soviet Union), there are few choices, if any. Even now, in many communities, matzah is difficult to find…much less a haggadah! This is where YOU come in – this is where the YES Fund (Youth, Education, and Special Projects) comes in.

Beginning in 2005 – 06, YES Fund allocations included funding for HUC-JIR students to go to Reform/Progressive communities in the FSU to lead Passover Seders and education programs. In 2007, Rabbi Michael Farbman, then Rabbi at Shaarei Shalom Progressive Community in St. Petersburg, worked with students to lead seders serving more than 600 Jews in communities across the FSU. This is possible because of gifts to the YES Fund.

This year, as you make your lists and gather your loved ones, remember those for whom this act is not yet a reality or an automatic. This year, as you prepare for Passover, consider adding “gift to YES Fund” to your list of things to do.  In doing so, you will make a difference in the lives of so many others.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warm regards,
Susan

Susan C. Bass
Vice-President, Department of Development & Special Projects
Congregation Beth Israel, Houston TX

March 12, 2010
27 Adar 5770

Dear WRJ Sisters,

If ever a Torah portion had the power of women/sisterhood written all over it, it’s the double portion for this week! Moses told the people what God wanted for the Tabernacle and the women led the way in donating and in making donations to happen. They gave of their jewelry and the works of their hands. The women instinctively understood that the Mishkan would be Sacred Holy Space…and proved that Stronger Together it would happen. Parashah Vayak’heil – P’kudei is beautifully recorded and interpreted in WRJ’s The Torah: A Women’s Commentary. Please read the words of Exodus 35:1 – 40:38 and the commentaries to understand the message and to feel just how empowering this double portion is.

So much was brought that Moses had to stop the giving BUT, in reality, the giving had only just begun…for to our temples and to our temple families, we the women continue to share the gifts of our hearts and the gifts of our hands…including our leadership.

Bottom line: What would our own temples be if it weren’t for the women…the sisterhoods?  

So, very simply, know that we are fulfilling our ancestral role; connecting ourselves to that first Tabernacle, to that first Mishkan, and that rather than shying away from roles of leadership within our local women’s groups/sisterhoods, we must step forward and say “hineini”. Here I am! Our women have been doing it for years and continue we must. To quote from The Torah: A Women’s Commentary: “Women are able to discern when a cause is worthy of their generosity.” (p 561) And that generosity includes their leadership.  

Nominating committees that base their work in Torah will be better able to convey to those whom they ask to serve of the connection of that new role of service to the women of Miriam’s generation. And sisterhood boards that are grounded in Torah will inspire leaders to step forward.

Parashah Vayak’heil – P’kudei is the “Tabernacle Model”, but, my dear sisters, it is also a leadership model; and, for your convenience, here is the WRJ Study Guide for Parashah Vayak’heil – P’kudei.

Shabbat shalom and please share this e-mail with your women’s group/your sisterhood!

In Sistership!

Cynthia Wolf
WRJ Board
WRJ Southwest VP Advocacy and Programming
Temple Emanuel Sisterhood
Beaumont, TX

March 5, 2010
19 Adar 5770

In this week’s Torah portion, Ki Tisa, the Israelites begin to worry that Moses will not return from Mt. Sinai, and in their fear encourage Aaron to create an idol, a molten calf.  Aaron said to them “Men, take off the gold rings that are on the ears of your wives, your sons, and your daughters, and bring them to me.”

According to Pirkei de Rabbi Eliezer 45, the women heard about the making of the Golden Calf and refused to give their jewelry to their husbands.  The women argued that the molten image was an abomination, and they would not participate.  God rewards the women with a holiday, Rosh Chodesh, acknowledging their independence, wisdom, and piety.   Rabbi Eliezer tells us the women were to observe more new moons in this world than the men, and in the next world they would be renewed like the moon.

Men and women have different responses to stress, and reacted quite differently to the anxiety generated by waiting for Moses to return. While men tend to have a "fight or flight" reaction, women - in the words of psychologist Shelley E. Taylor - approach stressful situations with a "tend and befriend" response.  During times of stress women take care of themselves and their children (tending) and form strong group bonds (befriending).  

I felt this extreme difference in response while praying at the Kotel with Women of the Wall two weeks ago.  As Lynn described in her letter after the services, the group with Women of the Wall stood in the back of the women’s section of the Kotel, and began to pray and sing.  Men across the dividing wall shouted and punched their fists in the air. I had a sense they were circling and were about to strike.  In response to the yelling, the women in our group moved closer together, feeling the comfort of each other and the protective shelter of our group.  While it is true that a few women also shouted at us in a very disturbing manner, what I felt about these women was incredulity that they could treat other women in such a degrading and compassionless way.  I’m sure there were women at Sinai, too, who willingly handed over their gold for the making of the Golden Calf.

As we know in sisterhood-land, women are the heart and soul of many congregations.  We are the caregivers and the nurturers, the first to offer help and assistance to any in need.  We advocate for social justice, and protect not only our own, but all those less fortunate.  We create special bonds, and feel an innate connection to other women.  In these times of economic and social stress, let us not forget that we must stand up for that which we know to be right, as did our sisters at Sinai. And, as we move closer to each other for comfort and support, we are also moving closer to God.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten our lives.

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With warm regards,

Shelley Lindauer
Executive Director
Women of Reform Judaism

February 26, 2010
13 Adar 5770
 
Dear WRJ Friends,
 
Chag Purim! Many of us can remember dressing up as Queen Esther – or, perhaps, as Vashti - making groggers resonate at the mention of Haman’s name, enjoying hamantaschen and carnivals at temple. The symbolic nature of Purim offers us opportunities to ponder and to act.
 
The reading of  M’gillat Esther coincides with Parashat T’zaveh (Exodus 27:20-30:10, Shabbat Zakhor). This Torah portion relates in several ways to aspects of Purim.
 
In the Torah portion we read about the very special garments of the high priests, the sacrifices of burnt and blood offerings, the eternal light and the role of each person in the community. In the story of Purim we also find that clothing reveals status and enhances beauty and that there are facts that are hidden, that offerings may be more personal choices than actual sacrifices, and that the eternal light may be within ourselves or in behaviors that bring light and sustain us.
 
As women and as sisterhood women we might think of Purim as a celebration of possibilities and opportunities and consider that the lots, or the lottery of life, change and may not always be what we expect or hope for. Our WRJ women and their families’ lots in life may be more stressful and challenging today as a result of the economic times as well. It is up to us to be thankful for our blessings and good fortune and to share them, and to support those who may need assistance and comfort. As women of Reform Judaism we can be the shining examples showing the ner tamid in our hearts, by revealing the best in ourselves and in the work of our sisterhoods.
 
Enjoy the Purimspiels and masquerades and teach our youth the real messages of Purim. Remember the importance of mishloach manot (giving of gifts to family and friends) and mattanot l’e ‘vonim (providing for those in need). ParticipateI in social action projects based on our WRJ resolutions that speak to prejudice, the rights of women,children, and families and provide a voice for those who may not be able to advocate for themselves. Create a positive image of sisterhood and enhance our partnership with our congregations  Chag Purim!
 
May the light of the Shabbat candles and the glow of our inner ner tamid brighten all our lives
 
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Linda Henderson
WRJ Board Member
Pacific District 1st Vice President
Congregation B’nai Israel
Sacramento CA

February 21, 2010

Shavua Tov. 

Shabbat in Jerusalem is one of those experiences that everyone should put on their “bucket list”.  It is quite special.  The streets are quiet with very little traffic and businesses and restaurants are closed.  Telephones don’t ring and many blackberrys are temporarily calm.  In the hotel, there is a Shabbat elevator that stops on every floor and runs constantly so that very observant Jews do not have to push any buttons!   An air of festivity permeates the city as many people are out and about, walking and visiting with families.  Everyone greets one another with “Shabbat Shalom” or “Good Shabbos”.  I love it!

The Conference of Presidents ended last night, after Shabbat, with a very interesting and thought provoking session that included a panel of journalists.  Ha’Aretz was represented by its Editor-at-Large, Aluf Benn and The Jerusalem Post Editor-in-Chief, David Horowitz moderated.  Ethan Bronner from The New York Times and Yonit Levy who is an anchor woman at Channel 2 here in Israel rounded out the panel.  It was a fascinating glimpse into the realm of Israeli journalism and how the rest of the world views events in the Middle East.  Why do we seem to want to read more about the Israeli/Palestinian conflict than about the incredible advances in the high tech and scientific fields?  Israel and Uruguay are about the same size and yet very few people in the world can name the president of Uruguay.  Everyone follows Israeli politics!  The panel answered many questions and a wonderful interactive dialog took place until most of the Conference participants had to leave for the late night flights from Ben Gurion airport to cities in North America.  As Shelley mentioned in her briefing from yesterday, I am staying in Israel for a few more days.  My husband and I have relatives in Herzliya and are looking forward to spending several days with them.

Thank you all for your words of encouragement and support.  This conference has been an remarkable and enlightening experience.  I look forward to engaging in conversations about this for many months to come and yet I am thankful that this electronic age has allowed Shelley and me to share our experiences with you in such a timely way.  As we have both underscored, I am proud to represent WRJ to the members of the Conference of Presidents of Major Jewish Organizations and to the many and varied Israelis with whom we have interacted.  The work that we do here and around the globe makes me very proud.  We can all be proud of what we do together because of course, we are stronger together!

Shavua tov – have a wonderful week.

Hugs,

Lynn

Lynn Magid Lazar

Women of Reform Judaism President

February 19, 2010

Lynn and I are coming to the end of a very busy week with the Conference of Presidents of Major American Organizations' mission to Israel.  If we sound tired, it's because we are!  This has been an exhilarating, educational, and emotional trip.

A short day was planned to accommodate the beginning of Shabbat.  The Hon. Shimon Peres, President of the State of Israel, spoke to our group about the changes that will have the most impact on our world in the near future, including advancing computer technology and social media, and enormous scientific breakthroughs.  President Peres was, as always, thoughtful, articulate, and resoundingly received by the Conference participants.

A trip to Ma'aleh Adumim highlighted the issues of "E1", the area under development freeze that lies between Jerusalem and Ma'aleh Adumim in the West Bank.  Ma'aleh Adumim, while considered a "settlement" in the negotiations for peace, is actually a city of 35,000 people, with an industrial park, schools, shops, and parks.  This is no temporary settlement, and Lynn and I were confronted with the challenges of the two-state solution, and the "land for peace" compromise.  However, there are no easy solutions for peace between the Israelis and Palestinians, and most Israelis feel the two-state solution will prevail.

Later, at a senior center in Ma'aleh Adumim, we heard all sides of these issues from Hon. Danny Danon, MK, Likud Party, Gidi Grinstein, President and founder of the Reut Institute, Hon. Benny Kashriel, Mayor of Ma'aleh Adumim, and Dr. Tal Becker, Visiting Fellow, Washington Institute for Near East Policy, and former senior advisor to the Minister of Foreign Affairs. 

We listened to a wonderful concert presented by local children, and concluded the visit with lunch.

I left for the airport shortly before Shabbat dinner ended, with the hope of returning to the office on Monday.  Lynn and her husband Dale (who joined Lynn at the end of the week) will stay on to visit with friends and family in Israel.

We were proud to represent WRJ at this impressive conference, and were able to introduce WRJ to many Conference participants who were not completely familiar with our organization. In addition, we met many Israeli VIPs who are now aware of the work we all do in North America, Israel, and around the world.

Thank you for following along with us on this journey.  We hope you will share these reports with your sisterhood members.

With warm regards,

Shelley

Shelley Lindauer

Executive Director

Women of Reform Judaism

February 19, 2010
5 Adar 5770
 
Dear WRJ Friends:
 
I recently found myself perusing a book that was given to me as a present, God’s Little Instruction Book for Women. The book promised that you would find inspiration and wisdom on how to live a happy and fulfilled life.  Always looking for further inspiration, wisdom and fulfillment I began to scan the quotes.  One quote in particular caught my eye and started me thinking of how to bring parashat T’rumah into today’s life for the Women of Reform Judaism. I quote: “You may give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.”
 
This portion deals exclusively with the instructions for building the Tabernacle, the Mishkan, or Tent of Meeting. It is very specific in delineating exact measurements and colors that are to be utilized. The people were asked to provide collectively the materials and some doubt is left as to whether or not women were involved.  I then, of course, opened my copy of The Torah – A Women’s Commentary and immediately discovered in Carol Meyers’ writing that the women were involved in producing the textiles and performing tasks at the entrance of the Tent of Meeting.
 
However, it wasn’t until I read Denise L. Eger’s “Contemporary Reflections” that this entire portion was brought home to me as an involved woman and member of Women of Reform Judaism.  “God instructs Moses: ‘Tell the Israelite people to bring Me gifts; you shall accept gifts for Me from every person whose heart is so moved.’” I then realized the truth of the quote about loving and giving. Do we give because it’s expected of us or do we give because the object of our gift is meaningful to us? This applies both to money and time.
 
The time that we give to our sisterhoods, districts and to WRJ is holy time. We do this to further the precepts of Reform Judaism today and for the generations that will follow us. The donations we give to the YES Fund (Youth, Education, and Special Projects) make a difference to youth through our work with Mitzvah Corps and Kesher groups. They make a difference in education with our assistance in grants to educate rabbis and cantors in this country and abroad. They make a difference in special projects by permitting WRJ to give grants to  Fundacion Judaica’s “Magal” program to help poor mothers and families in Argentina’s rural Jewish communities or to fund HUC-JIR’s Student Pesach Scholarship which allows students to bring Pesach to Reform congregations in the Former Soviet Union. I could go on and on with what our holy giving does.
 
The point is that the community gave voluntarily and lovingly to build the Mishkan and today it is still of utmost importance to continue to give to build a stable Reform community worldwide.  As Denise Eger says: “giving a meaningful voluntary offering to a synagogue or other Jewish institution is a privilege, not a burden…Our parashah teaches that the t’rumah-gift is an offering that comes from the deep recesses of the heart.”
 
To end as I began with a quote from my little book: “To love what you do and feel that it matters – how could anything be more fun.”  We can do this through WRJ.
 
May the gift of the Shabbat candle lights brighten all our lives.
Please share this e-mail with your sisterhood.
 
Barbara
 
Barbara Stern
WRJ Board Member
Temple Am Echad
Lynbrook, NY

February 18, 2010

Good evening from Jerusalem, although it is past midnight here and our day has just ended.  What a day it was!  As you read in Shelley’s report, yesterday we spent the entire day in the hotel being treated to briefings from Prime Minister Netanyahu, Ehud Barak and Tzipi Livni to name just a few.  Today we traveled around Israel and were treated to experiences and people that can truly be classified as “once in a lifetime”.

We drove to the Gilboa area and visited the community of Jenin.  Yes, we crossed the Green Line and entered the disputed territories.  You may recall that Jenin was originally the location of the majority of terrorism.  In fact 75% of terrorism acts originated in Jenin.  Today, the IDF forces no longer control the checkpoint and the area is experiencing an influx of visitors and an increase in the economy.  We visited a wonderful school where beautiful Arab children entertained us with a musical program.  The Jewish mayor and the Arab deputy mayor of the area both spoke with us and explained how their communities live and work together in a spirit of co-existence.  Mr. Saleem, deputy mayor said that in other areas of Israel people may talk about peace, but think about the next war.  “Here in Gilboa, we talk about peace, plan for peace, live in peace and dream about peace.”  It was such a hopeful visit. 

After a briefing at the checkpoint, we drove into the city of Jenin and visited a brand new hotel and community development area.  Here we were briefed by the Governor of Jenin, Qaddoura M. Qaddoura.  Although somewhat less optimistic than our time at the school, it was a positive experience to think that the Palestinian police and officials hosted us and that a dialog took place between the Governor and Alan Solow, the chair of the Conference of Presidents.

From Jenin we traveled to Tel Aviv and the Israel Space Center.  Don’t try to visit this on your next trip to Israel because it is not a facility that one can tour.  We were given special briefings by the heads of both the military and the civilian space programs.  It was fascinating and somewhat awesome, especially when we were asked to take the batteries out of our cell phones in order to enhance security!

Even though it seems as though more than a day’s worth of activities had already occurred,  we left the Space Center for the wonderful museum of Beit Hatefutsoth.  The museum hosted us for dinner and we, along with the Israeli press and TV cameras, listened to Noam Shalit, father of Gilad Shalit, IDF soldier who has been held captive by Hamas for nearly four years.  An emotional evening and it wasn’t over yet!  Another treat in the form of a surprise visit from Daniel Shapiro who just happened to be in Tel Aviv for the day.  He is a member of the US National Security Council and its top Middle East expert.

As you can see, the amazingly informative, powerful and awe-inspiring experience continues.  In the midst of representatives of more than fifty major Jewish organizations from all walks and all streams of Jewish life and thought, Shelley and I are incredibly proud to represent all of you at this important conference.  Stronger Together!

Stay tuned:  tomorrow our day begins at 7:15 am with Deputy Prime Minister Lieberman and President Shimon Peres!

And by the way, if you missed previous daily reports, please check the WRJ website at www.WRJ.org/leadershipcommunication

L’Shalom,

Lynn

Lynn Magid Lazar

Women of Reform Judaism President

February 17, 2010

WRJ friends,
 
It's been another long - and exciting - day in Israel.  It's 10:45 pm Wednesday evening, and Lynn and I have been busy since 7:30 am!
 
On today's agenda:
 
Hon. Benjamin Netanyahu, prime minister
Hon. Ehud Barak, minister of defense and former prime minister
Hon.Tzipi Livni, leader of the opposition party, Kadima
Hon. Dan Merirdor, deputy prime minister and minister of intelligence
 
Whew!  These are the names of some of the MVPs that we heard from today, but there were many other, including Natan Sharansky.  It's been so interesting to hear different points of view about the state of the peace negotiations (maybe they'll begin again soon), Iran (the biggest global problem), and the delegitimization of Israel (the Goldstone Report).  These three themes were carried on throughout the day, and are the major topics on Israel's agenda.
 
Tonight we had dinner and a briefing at the the Jewish People Policy Planning Institute: instead of the Jewish people reacting to environmental and external events, we must change the paradigm and create our own future.  We must be proactive as opposed to reactive, and try to create history before it is written. 
 
Thursday we leave at 7:30 am to go to Jenin (exciting, scary!) and then to an exclusive tour of the Israel Space Center, including the control room, which required the direct permission of Prime Minister Netanyahu. 
 
We are so thrilled to be representing all of our sisterhoods, all of our members, as the representatives of Women of Reform Judaism on this important Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations' mission. 
 
Warm regards to all,
 
Shelley
 
Shelley Lindauer
Executive Director

Tuesday, February 16th

Dear Friends,

Another amazing day in Jerusalem.  This morning we began our day with yet another group of impressive and exciting students – our first year rabbinic, cantorial, and education students at HUC.  We (all of you) hosted a breakfast for the students on the campus of HUC.  Over bagels and lox, we talked about the important partnership between WRJ and our future rabbis, cantors, and educators.  The students were upbeat and inquisitive and asked questions that enabled us to engage in a wonderful conversation. 

You may be wondering about the Conference of Presidents meeting that Shelley and I came to attend.  Well, it finally began this afternoon.   It has only been Day 1 and we have already heard from some very impressive leaders.  Here is just a sample:

1. Honorable Daniel Ayalon, deputy minister of Foreign Affairs
2. Honorable Moshe Ya’alon, member of Knesset, vice prime minister and minister of strategic affairs
3. Brig. General Mike Herzog, special emissary to Israel’s prime minister and minister of defense
4. Ambassador James Cunningham, ambassador of the U.S. to Israel

These leaders told us about issues in Israel today, the prospects for negotiations,  and the current state of U.S. – Israel relations.  A highlight for me was being asked to introduce Ambassador Cunningham.  What a thrill!  Photos were taken and we will post them on the WRJ website when we receive them.  I was most pleased as I was introduced to the gathering as the president of Women of Reform Judaism.   We can all be proud of our work and our organization and I am exceedingly proud to represent all of us here in Jerusalem. 

Thank you for the opportunity.

Shalom,
Lynn

Lynn Magid Lazar
Women of Reform Judaism President

More Monday, February 15th

Hello friends,


There are not enough hours in the day to do and see all that we would like and still try to keep up with e-mailing descriptions of our many wonderful experiences.  But I am going to try!  Let me elaborate on Monday (after the services at the Western Wall).  Monday morning we met with Rabbi Gilad Kariv the executive director of the Israel Movement for Progressive Judaism and Michal (IMPJ director of development).  We had a wonderful conversation about all of the programs and projects of our movement in Israel and about the strong and enduring partnership between WRJ and our Israeli congregations.  We then left Jerusalem for the drive to the Weitzmann preschool in the neighborhood of Jaffa, a poor urban area next to Tel Aviv.   This innovative program, which integrates students from Muslim, Christian, and Jewish families is in its first year and is already a huge success with numbers of students doubling for next year.  The curriculum includes a Reform Jewish component as well as emphasizing events and life cycles that celebrate the values that all cultures can embrace.

We then drove to another neighborhood in Jaffa to visit our Mechina program.  Those of you who traveled on our last WRJ trip to Israel remember visiting these impressive young men and women.  The Mechina program is a post-high school, pre-military year dedicated to study and preparations toward compulsory service in the IDF.  Young  Israelis have the opportunity to study their Jewish heritage and Israeli identity,  as well as learn to put  their Jewish values into practice by working in community service projects in this extremely disadvantaged neighborhood.  It would be difficult to find a more extraordinary group of teens in whose faces we viewed the leaders of tomorrow’s Israel!

Our final stop was at Beit Daniel, our large and impressive congregation in Tel Aviv.  Here we spoke with Rabbi Galia Sadan who shared information about her remarkable conversion program.  Each year, over a hundred (mostly) women come to Beit Daniel to convert to Judaism. Although the Orthodox still maintain control of religious related laws in Israel, the Ministry of the Interior does recognize these conversions and allows people to be registered by the state of Israel as Jews.   Much work needs to be done, but this is an inspirational beginning.

Lest you all think that we are not also enjoying the fabulous weather and Israeli food – we drove along the gorgeous Mediterranean Sea and were treated to delicious hummus and falafel for lunch.  And don’t even get me started on the Israeli cucumbers which happen to be the best in the entire world!

I wish you could all be with us.
Shalom,
Lynn


Lynn Magid Lazar
Women of Reform Judaism President

Shalom from Jerusalem – Monday February 15, 2010

Writing about my experiences today could be the most challenging task that I have faced in quite some time.  Shelley and I began our day at 6:30 am when we walked into the old city to meet Women of the Wall to pray the morning service and to welcome Rosh Chodesh Adar.  It was a gorgeous morning in Jerusalem –the walls of the old city truly glowed in the rays of the sun.  The Kotel was crowded on both the men’s and women’s side.  As you enter from the rear of the plaza, I noticed that a new sign had been erected since my last visit.  In the public area a cordoned off walkway with a sign in Hebrew and English states: PASSAGE FOR MEN ONLY.  A disconcerting message to “welcome” me to the area of the Wall!

The service was beautiful and powerful, with more than 150 women gathering to sing and pray near the rear of the women’s section.  Women from all walks of Jewish life, old friends, new Israelis sisterhood friends, and supportive men from behind the barriers and in the men’s section stood together.  As the service progressed, ultra-orthodox men AND WOMEN began to yell and verbally harass us.  Our sisters translated some of the vile epithets that came our way, although the actual meaning of the words was much less hurtful than the strident tone and hateful expressions.  The police intervened only when necessary and were amazingly respectful and helpful.  The incredible dichotomy of feelings is almost beyond words.  One the one hand is the spiritual joy of standing in the Jerusalem sunshine, at the Kotel, with 150 strangers who welcome one another into their midst and become a community in a matter of minutes.  On the other hand is the despair in hearing and seeing the vile and nearly violent reaction of OTHER JEWS who object to the heartfelt prayers of fellow Jews in erezt Israel.  It is the year 2010 and I stand shoulder to shoulder with other Jewish women praying at the Western Wall and people are yelling and threatening me.  Can this be possible?

Let me lift your spirits though, with the second half of this story.  In accordance with the Israeli Supreme Court ruling, the Torah may not be carried, read, or opened at the Wall.  When it is time for the Torah reading in the morning service, the  entire group of women and supportive men walk around the Kotel into the archeological park to the sight know as Robinson’s Arch.  Here we are permitted to read from the Torah.  The second half of the service is conducted here and is joyful and open.  Women are called for aliyahs and women chant from the Torah.  This is the Torah that WRJ presented in Toronto to Women of the Wall.  It is a gift made possible by WRJ and it is from my congregation – Temple Sinai in Pittsburgh, PA.  I had tears in my eyes as the scroll was opened and I was invited to have an aliyah.  It is hard to describe the emotions of being in Israel, chanting the blessings, and feeling the connections between North  American Reform Jewish women and every person standing on those ancient Jerusalem stones.

There is hope and joy in Israel, even as the country grapples with the issues of equality and pluralism.  Amazingly, this morning service was only the beginning of a 12 hour day for Shelley and me!  We spent the day with many partners from the Israel Movement for Progressive Judaism (IMPJ).  We visited incredible schools, congregations, and programs that are making a huge and positive impact on Israeli society and advancing the Reform agenda.  Many of these programs have been aided by support from WRJ and each of you! 

More about all of this tomorrow……….
Shalom,
Lynn

February 14, 2010

Shalom from Jerusalem.  It is Sunday night here and Shelley and I have just returned from an absolutely amazing event.   We had dinner with sixty-five incredible women who are members of our newest sisterhoods in our Israeli Reform congregations.  We now have sixteen affiliated Israeli sisterhoods and every one of them was represented at the WRJ Israel gathering this evening.  Let me repeat that…we had representatives from 100% of our Israeli sisterhoods!  Many women traveled hours and spent the night in Jerusalem in order to attend the occasion.  Many thanks to WRJ board member Resa Davids for organizing this very special evening.

We opened our gathering with a inspirational d’var Torah from Rabbi Naamah Kelman, the new dean of HUC here in Jerusalem.  Every congregation was introduced and Shelley and I had the honor of presenting charters and our unique gavels to each new sisterhood.  Photographs will appear on our website very soon, as we had Rabbi Stanley Davids as our very own VIP photographer!

Our gathering also included two wonderful leaders and partners from the World Union for Progressive Judaism; Rabbi Joel Oseran, VP, International Development  and Shai Pinto VP and COO here in Israel.  We were also treated to inspirational words from Rabbi Gilad Kariv,  executive director of the Israel Movement for Progressive Judaism.  Rabbi Kariv emphasized that valuable role that WRJ plays in the success of our congregations in Israel.  We can all be so proud of the growth of Reform Judaism in Israel and our contributions towards that growth.

Our evening was a wonderful success and underscores (once again!) the special bond that Jewish women share.  Language and cultural differences are immediately overcome by the connections that happen within a sisterhood of women.

Tomorrow morning we pray with the Women of the Wall for Rosh Chodesh Adar.

Shalom from Israel,
Lynn

Lynn Magid Lazar
Women of Reform Judaism President

February 12, 2010
28 Shevat 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

Having just given us the Ten Commandments as set forth in Parashat Vitro, God expands our covenantal relationship by giving us rules for a wide range of topics in this week’s Parashat Mishpatim. The civil and criminal areas addressed by these rules, laws, and stipulations include murder, kidnapping, bodily injury, and property damage. Many of the religious and social precepts relate to labor, food, and the treatment of the disadvantaged, the enemy, and the stranger.

The law in Mishpatim that states, “You shall not wrong or oppress a stranger, for you were strangers in Egypt” (Exodus 22:20), calls for us to be just and compassionate. It reminds us of when we were strangers.

In my life, there have been numerous occasions when I have felt like a stranger. Starting a new job, moving from New York to the Philadelphia area, and newly joining a synagogue and an organization are among the times when I have felt like a stranger. How eternally grateful I am to the women in sisterhood and to the women in WRJ who extended a hand to me and made me feel welcomed and then embraced. It has made me keenly aware of those who may be feeling like the strangers among us and of those who are feeling alone, for whatever reason. In reaching out to a woman in my sisterhood whose husband had recently moved out, I was blessed with what became a very close and dear friendship. Let us always treasure and actively participate in the welcoming, warmth and connections that are an integral and valuable part of sisterhood.

May the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

Please share this e-mail with your sisterhood.

Warm regards,
Joan

Joan L. Blum
WRJ Executive Committee Member
Main Line Reform Temple, Wynnewood, PA

February 6, 2010
22 Shevat 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

Shabbat Shalom.  Throughout the years of serving as an officer of WRJ, I have conducted workshops on leadership training and management skills.  In an effort to ground these sessions in Jewish traditions, I begin by consulting the weekly Torah portion.  Although in September or July there is much to learn from our texts regarding leadership, I often find myself wishing that we were right in the middle of Exodus at Parashat Yitro. This could be the quintessential leadership portion of our Torah; my friends, we are here!

In this portion, Moses’ father-in-law (Jethro or Yitro) notices that large numbers of people are lining up to bring their disputes and concerns to Moses. He confronts Moses about acting alone and specifically tells him that “The thing you are doing is not right”. He instructs Moses to appoint trustworthy people to share this burden of leadership. I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that Moses is advised to create a board of directors, steering committee, executive committee, or whatever you may call it in your sisterhood.

Reliable layers of leadership are vital to any organization. Committees function with capable chairwomen and boards of directors and have officers and executives who bring expertise to all aspects of sisterhood. Sisters, you will be pleased to know that your WRJ leadership team has been hard at work. The executive committee of WRJ, comprised of our officers plus five elected board members from all parts of North America, recently met at our offices in New York. Beginning on a Thursday and continuing through Sunday, we worked with our dedicated professional staff, brainstormed future departmental work, discussed financial issues, determined YES Fund grants, celebrated Shabbat together, and underscored the concept that something magical happens when women come together. Much was accomplished and strong bonds were formed.

From our board, to our district leadership, to our local sisterhood presidents, WRJ has strong and active layers of leadership. Each and every woman in our affiliated sisterhoods contributes to the strength and vitality of our organization and of the Reform movement. 

On this Shabbat, I encourage you to think about the many layers that make up your own sisterhood. Reflect on the accomplishments of your sisterhood in both congregation and community. Pause on this day of rest and recall the blessings and joys of interacting with interesting and interested women with whom you share the passions of sisterhood and Reform Judaism. And may the light of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

Please share this e-mail with your sisterhood.

Warm regards,
Lynn Magid Lazar
Women of Reform Judaism President

January 29, 2010
15 Shevat 5770

B'shalach tells us the details of the departure from Egypt, crossing the sea, celebrating deliverance, and the water, food, and military crises that the Israelites faced in the first few days and weeks of the Exodus. The story is familiar, and each line of the text – even each phrase of the text – deserves our thoughtful study and reflection. The Exodus begins, and in the process a new community comes into being and the spiritual and ethical history of our world is forever changed.

This Shabbat is also known as Shabbat Shirah, the Sabbath of Song. How we love to sing “Miriam's Song”, to raise our timbrels in her honor, and to celebrate with Debbie Friedman's special gift of words and music that stirs each one of us to join together in the song and the dance. We sing to celebrate redemption. Yet our songs are tempered by the reality of the suffering and loss experienced by the Egyptians: our enemies, with whom we nevertheless share a common humanity. We are a community of women.

Stan and I returned to our home in Jerusalem just a few hours ago after being in North America for almost three months. The Jerusalem Post was waiting for us at our front door.  Headline:  "On Tu Bishvat celebrate Green Zionism!"  The early Zionists appreciated the importance of "greening" long before this became the politically correct thing to do.  Religious-based values form the basis of our Jewish Community.
 
Listen to the words of the Kabbalah about Tu B'Shevat:  

Each person is like a Tree in the Field

In a field of trees, each tree lives among the other trees. The trees benefit from each other in many ways. They share water,nutrients, sunlight and shade. Trees work together to prevent harmful weeds from attacking each other. Trees support each other’s growth with the help of insects cross pollinating from one tree to the next, enabling the growth of more fruit. Older, sturdier and stronger trees
support the younger, weaker, less stable trees during windstorms and severe weather. Trees which grow alone and separate from the field do not have the added benefit and support from the trees in the field.

In a human community, each of us lives in the presence of others. Like trees, people benefit from the support and stability of a strong community. Communities, in which the people work together for the
benefit of the community and not for the benefit of one individual, grow and thrive in both tough times and good. Helping others grow adds to our own personal growth – whether it be spiritually, intellectually or physically. When communities grow together, everyone benefits.

On Tu B'Shevat, we raise our metaphorical branches heavenward; we send our roots deep into the nurturing earth. We care for each other, and in turn we gain shelter and strength.
 
The Diaspora community and the Israeli community, reach toward one another. WRJ and WRJ-Israel, stronger together,form a rich, new, combined community.

Join us!
 
May the lights of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

Please share this e-mail with your sisterhoods.
 
Resa Davids
WRJ board member

January 22, 2010
Shevat 7, 5770

Dear WRJ friends,

As a narrative, this weeks Torah portion, Bo, discusses the last three plagues visited upon the Egyptians:  locusts, darkness, and the slaying of the first born. It covers the beginning of the Exodus as well as ritual preparation for and ritual remembrance of the Exodus. 

Thematically, this parshat deals with God’s omnipotence, leadership, remembrance, and institutionalized memory.  And it is in this context that Bo speaks to us as women of Sisterhood and Women of Reform Judaism.

The text reads:
You shall observe this (the Passover ritual) as an institution for all time, for you and for your descendants.  And when you enter the land that Adonai will give you, as promised, you shall observe this rite.  When your children ask you, “What do you mean by this rite?” you shall say, it is the Passover sacrifice to Adonai, who passed over the houses of the Israelites in Egypt when smiting the Egyptians…   Bo 12:24-27

It is here that we are instructed to celebrate Passover and to instruct our children, from generation to generation - v’dor v’dor, through ritual and with explanation.

This biblical command gives authority to our purpose. Continuity, community, education, and the perpetuation of our faith – this is the message of Bo and speaks to our mission as sisterhoods and as women of Reform Judaism. 

As women of Reform Judaism we affiliate to support temple life, maintain Jewish values, and insure the future of Reform Judaism in our local communities and around the world. We join together in congregations to enable women to bond and grow in a Jewish context. We raise money for our congregations and for the YES Fund.  We volunteer, fund, and lobby for causes that promote the dignity and well being of all humanity.  We are the continuum of Bo, the metaphoric tribes of Sinai, fulfilling the directive of Bo; committed to the present while building for the future of our faith and a Jewish way of life.

May the lights of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

Please share this e-mail with your sisterhoods.

Warm regards,

Karen Sim

Karen Schiffer Sim
WRJ board member

January 15, 2010
29 Tevet 5770

Dear WRJ Friends,

Every year at our seder tables, we re-enact the journey of our ancestors from slavery to freedom.  The story begins with the ten plagues which God put upon the Egyptians, not only to ensure the release of the Jewish people from bondage, but to show the world that He is the God of all of creation and history. As punishment for afflicting the Jewish people with slavery, the Egyptians were reduced to the insecurity of strangers; robbed of their pride, possessions, and sense of superiority; and experienced physical suffering.

Parashat Va-eira begins in the midst of the encounter between God and Moses at the burning bush.  The Israelites, crushed by cruel bondage, did not respect Moses when he told them of their covenant with God to be brought into the Promised Land. Moses tells God that if the Israelites would not listen to him, then Pharaoh surely will not heed a man of impeded speech.

People are more complicated than they may seem, and success is determined by so much more than pure ability. In our tradition, Moses is a great leader. However, he is a leader with doubts and insecurities. As women of Reform Judaism, each of us can do more to move the world in the direction of freedom. We can realize our potential by overcoming the voice within us that justifies inaction.

Ask yourself, how it felt to accomplish something that you did not think was possible. How did you feel when you began the task and how did you feel when you completed it?

Moses had fears because of his difficulties with speech. The same way Moses spoke for the Israelites even when it was hard or they didn't want his help, we need to find our voice and stand together to protect those who need our help. Through Women of Reform Judaism, we have the opportunity to communicate to the next generation, and those around us, the values and teachings of Judaism.
And yes it is an awesome responsibility – not one that can be satisfied by a single act but rather by incorporating mitzvot into our daily lives. When we sincerely plan to do a mitzvah, we feel joy in the positive planning and are motivated to take action to bring light and warmth around the world. 

I am so proud to be part of this extraordinary organization filled with strong, resilient women, who clearly have a role and are willing to take the risks to make our world a better place for everyone…Stronger together.
 
May the lights of the Shabbat candles brighten all our lives.

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Warm regards,

Pat Blum
WRJ Southwest District President

8 January 2010
22 Tevet 5770

Dear WRJ Friends,

This week’s parshah (Sh’mot, Exodus 1:1 – 6:1) spans the years from the arrival in Egypt of the sons of Jacob and their families through the enslavement of the Israelites, the birth of Moses, the scene at the burning bush, and Moses’ return to Egypt to deliver the children of Israel from bondage. Two aspects of this parshah were of special interest to me. 

First, the manner in which the women who through their bravery and adherence to their humanity, were responsible for saving the Jewish people. The two midwives, Shiphrah and Puah, disobey Pharoah’s order to kill any newborn male child born to Israelite women. They placed their fear of God and their own sense of right above their fear of disobedience to authority.  Joheved, Moses’ mother, and Miriam, his sister, assure his survival by placing him in a basket in the river and watching over him.
 
The second interesting aspect of this section of Torah is encapsulated in the phrase “A new king arose over Egypt who did not know Joseph”. As the generations passed, the Israelites lived easy productive lives.  However, as the Israelites multiplied in number, the leaders of Egypt perceived that they would be a threat to their own power.  From this fear came the cruel edict that the male babies should be slain. 

Why would the leaders of Egypt suddenly fear this people? “A new king arose over Egypt who did not know Joseph” – the Israelites did not have personal contact with the leaders of the country – therefore, it was easy for fear and prejudice to creep into the minds of the leaders of Egypt, and there were no voices to be raised in defense of the Israelites when they were enslaved and persecuted.

The lesson to be learned here is that we can never become so complacent that we fail to keep ourselves informed of important decisions being made in our government.  Furthermore, we need to make our individual and group voices be heard on issues that will have an impact on our lives and those of our neighbors.

WRJ is well-placed to assist each of us in this sacred act of Tikkun Olam – the repairing of the world.  Through WRJ’s weekly “Social Justice – WRJ Advocacy and Programming” messages, we are informed about advocacy and programming that focuses on the various issues that we, as Reform Jewish women, need to be concerned with. Advocacy alerts are sent when needed, providing easy access to links through which we can voice our position on upcoming issues coming before our representatives in government.

Please visit the WRJ website (www.wrj.org/advocacy) to view the critical issues grid and to read the WRJ resolutions where our positions are articulated. WRJ’s Guide to Advocacy and Action provides programming ideas based upon these resolutions. 

Shiphrah and Puah, Joheved, and Miriam acted upon their convictions to bring justice and peace into their world. May we, as modern Jewish women, emulate their courage by ensuring that our voices are heard and we are “known by Pharoah”.

May the lights of Shabbat continue to illuminate our lives as we move forward to learn, understand and act where our hearts and souls direct us.

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Edith Caplan
Women of Reform Judaism
Vice President, Advocacy and Programming